While I don't condone speaking about the habits of other parents, I did feel compelled to speak up in defense for those of us that must work after a statement was made on Facebook stating that "Working moms are lazy because they 'get to check out' every day and go to work".
What I don't think those moms understand is that not all of us work because we WANT to work outside of the home but in fact we MUST work for one reason or another. They don't think about the worry that we must endure each day as we drop or infants and school age kids off into the trust of someone else to care for them and how we do not "check out" once we reach the office but instead split our brains to take care of the work we were hired to do and worry about all the things that could be happening in our absence to our kids and what we are missing along with figuring out how to make it all work. Do these stay at home moms stop to think that while they were home all day getting the daily chores done along with taking care and snuggling their young that we have only the evening hours fit it all in?
I would like to share with these woman that while we are at work we have the guilt of feeling we should be home, rocking our babies, kissing their foreheads, and baking cookies for when they get home from school and just being there when they get home from school. When we are home we worry about the work left undone at the office, we think about the meeting that is scheduled for tomorrow or how we are going to get the additional training that is needed to continue with this job without taking more time away from either work or family obligations; and if we don't get it all done will we still have this much needed job tomorrow. Then after we put our kids to bed is when we start doing the dishes, washing the laundry, checking over the homework, trying to find time for our husbands and getting everything ready to do it all over again tomorrow and keep a smile on our face.
So while I didn't get to chime in on this debate, I would have dared these moms to share their work load list with me, share their daily concerns, and debate how they feel they can say "Working Moms are lazy". I beleive that both the stay at home mom AND the job working moms work hard and are doing the best they can for the situation that is needed for THEIR family.
Before someone speaks about the working habits of another, I think they should spend some time thinking about what life changes would happen if the roles were reversed, how would you handle the changes and demands needed of you?
After now feeling I have gotten my piece said, I will get off my soap box and wish everyone a happy day doing whatever their job may be.
1 comment:
Whaa? I am always shocked that there are STILL PEOPLE out there who think ANY PARENT gets a break. Wait, dads do sometimes. Ah, there I go again, being all stereotypical! I think the easiest way to be a parent? Get some cats and skip the kids altogether. :)
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